Strong Black Woman Syndrome or Myth
Posted by
the philosophizer
Feb 16
Why are so many strong black women single and unmarried? My response is from a completely different angle…
I don’t believe this is a black issue this is an issue that is now being faced by many women around the world; strong women of all races.
In earlier years the role of man was clearly defined in the Bible and he followed it; it was accepted as law and never questioned. As time passed some strayed away from those traditions and laws, man began to create his own set of rules as to how things should be. Over time he slowly reversed the roles of man and woman thus creating confusion; the ‘natural’ order of things no longer existed.
Today’s woman is physically spiritually and emotionally stronger and is far more educated, as a result more self-reliant; less dependent on men. The men however have been taking on many roles previously only performed by women. They have become more of a nurturer than the men of old. In terms of their educational progress there hasn’t been any; they were never denied such opportunities.
In a relationship a man NEEDS to feel like a man and when he is partnered with a woman that equates or surpasses him in strength, this can very be difficult; it goes against his nature; against the natural order of things. I think that strong women need to know when to wear that ‘hat’ and when to take it off; we need to relearn how to let a man be a man; there is nothing wrong with being assertive and strong however, when a woman displays these characteristics 24/7 it can and will take a toll on any relationship.
From a man’s perspective this woman has to win every argument, she constantly speaks down to him, she doesn’t allow him to help her with anything and every moment is literally a battle. He walks around on eggshells because he has no clue what or how to please her and when he tries, she is quick to remind him that she is quite capable of doing it herself, “Anything you can do I can do it better and I can do it all by myself.” Now if the tables were turned would you date someone like you; someone that by their actions and words made it clear that they don’t NEED you; a man needs to feel needed.
Unfortunately the modern woman is in search of the man of old (strong) and the modern man is looking for a woman from the past (submissive), neither of which is in high supply; both a dying breed. The only solution is to be willing to modify our search criteria to what is available and not what was. We must also be willing to make changes within ourselves; let a man BE a man, let a woman FEEL equal.
My thoughts on this video: These women are looking for the wrong qualities in a man; things that are not going to matter in the long haul; physical appearance, race, age, status and yes a bank account filled with money. They need to stop making ‘a list’ and learn to be open to a little more open; focus more on the character of a man…
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